Process-Based Living Blog

Shortcuts to Mindfulness

Whenever I ask people what gets in their way of practising mindful meditation, the answer is most often: "time."  There's no time to sit on a chair or cushion and simply notice your breath.  There's no time in a busy, stressful day to pause and check in with yourself....

Can’t sleep? Try the Anti-Ruminator

If there's something to ruminate about, you can bet I'll be ruminating about it - often long into the night when I'd rather be fast asleep.  Recently, however, I decided I'd had enough of ruminating (endlessly re-playing the past in my mind).  I put on my coach's hat...

Why Adults Need Field Trips

On Friday I took a field trip to the Toronto Science Centre.  It's been over thirty years since I last visited and I asked the same person to accompany me: my mother.  This time she didn't have to carry my lunchbox around while I ran through all the exhibits (although...

The Courage to Lead

Everything I know about leadership started with square-dancing.  I learned the quick-step and do-si-do while attending Bark Lake Leadership Centre at 16 years old, an organization that helps campers transition into camp counselors.  While I'm sure the Centre imparted...

Under(water) Pressure

The situation: A couple of years ago, I took up swimming for exercise.  I'd struggled with a bad back for a number of years and when a chiropractor suggested I strengthen my core with front crawl and backstroke, I decided to give it a try.  Little did I know how much...

It’s Okay to be Scrooge

As December approached, my usual dread of Christmas began seeping in like the ominous fog in a scary movie.  It has a skin-crawling sensation to it and I've imagined myself holding onto November by the fingernails, trying to evade December's pull. Usually I keep quiet...

Now That’s What I Call Mindfulness

I'm always looking for ways to talk about mindfulness that suit my understanding of it - and that's been surprisingly harder than expected.  This week, I found the following description of mindfulness in an article called "Of the Soul and Suffering: Mindfulness-Based...

Daring Awareness

The situation: Like almost everybody I know, my life is hectic and busy and often overwhelming.  Work consumes most of my time and even though I don't have kids, I'm still up early on weekends and running all over town on weeknights, responding to various demands on...

Practice is Progress

The situation: My last blog post spoke to the struggles I had coming up with ideas for what to do next and how process-based living emerged as a result of that struggle. My story actually starts before I made the decision to start my own business, back to a time...

Welcome to Process-Based Living

The situation: In 2009 I resigned from my first career in financial technology and embarked on the journey of creating a professional coaching practice.  In those early years, I asked myself over and over again, "what should I be doing now?  What am I meant to do...

Persistence

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. The slogan "Press...

Real, and Not Meant to be Ignored

It's only harder to be with "negative" emotions (sad/down, angry, scared) because we haven't had the practice.  I tweeted the above sentiment this morning and now I'm going to blog about it a little further.  Without exception, all of us experience so-called negative...

Courage to be Silent and Alone

I'm reading Osho's Courage: The Joy of Living Dangerously.  He offers one of the best and most currently relevant perspectives on meditation that I've found, as follows: "Meditation is just a courage to be silent and alone. Slowly slowly, you start feeling a new...